A Different Way of Making Decisions

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Whenever I was faced with a decision in the past, I would attack it very rationally with a pros & cons list.

Then I came across Daniella LaPorte’s Desire Map and it changed everything.

According to Danielle, we have it backwards. Before going for a goal or making a decision, we need to do something crucial. We first need to understand how we want to FEEL.

According to Danielle, when you get clear on how you want to feel,

Decisions will be easier to make: You’ll know what to say no, thank you to and what to say hell yes! to.

In the beginning of this year, instead of writing New Year’s Resolutions or goals, I decided to get clear on how I wanted to feel. I came up with the following: 

I wanted to feel CONNECTED

I wanted to feel PASSIONATE

And I wanted to feel a sense of GROWTH

Doing this exercise made me realize that the reason I was feeling ‘blah’ in my work was that it was no longer in alignment with my deepest desires. This was a real ‘aha’ moment for me as I had been feeling unmotivated and uninspired for a while, but since there was nothing really wrong, I hadn’t been able to put my finger on why. This simple exercise helped me decide to leave this job and take my health coaching work from a side business to a full-time business – a decision that came easily once I realized it was perfectly aligned with my desires.

This is just one of the ways I now approach decision-making which has completely changed the way I live – from the work I do to the social engagement I say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to.

I look forward to sharing this powerful tool with you along with ways to help you access your subconscious – the part of your mind that is actually driving 95% of your processes – on November 19th in Geneva. I will be partnering with Energy Therapist, Lais Stephan to bring a mix of amazing tools to help you start listening to your intuition – that knowing place within all of us – so you can work, love and eat with confidence.

Find out more and sign-up here! 

And if you are unable to join us, why not try applying this principle next time you are faced with a decision: Decide first on how you want to FEEL, and then weigh your options in relation to this.


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  • The Nia girl on Nov 25, 2013 Reply

    Thank you for your article and congratulations! I had a similar story with Nia. Since I became a student and teacher i always check with my body before taking a decision. My body reveals what I really want.

    • Hiba on Nov 26, 2013 Reply

      Thanks! I love the idea of always checking in with your body – and i agree, it is life changing!

  • Mariska on Nov 12, 2013 Reply

    Quite a leap of faith that was totally worth it IMHO. We spend so much time at work, it should at least be sth that you can feel passionate about and that gives you a sense of reward, independent of your boss’, your colleague’s or other feedback.

    • Hiba on Nov 12, 2013 Reply

      Thanks Mariska – I agree too!

  • Amy on Nov 12, 2013 Reply

    I have just subscribed! see you there!

    • Hiba on Nov 12, 2013 Reply

      Awesome, Amy! see you there!

  • Hiba on Nov 11, 2013 Reply

    Thank you both for your comments!

  • Julia on Nov 11, 2013 Reply

    Great article, Hiba! And sounds like a wonderful workshop you two are planning!

  • Berenice on Nov 11, 2013 Reply

    could not agree more!! and I testify the method works!

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